In my travels I meet many people who have given up on love. they build a wall because of the rejection few believe they will ever love again. The walls they build are too high and the hurt that’s taken root goes down way low. You see it in their eyes. Pain and mistrust. They don’t even trust themselves to love again.
It’s sad when a woman whom God had made to love looses the the very thing that comes naturally to her. Love. When a woman loses her will to love she loses her heart. It don’t matter how hard she appears underneath that layer of mortar lies a heart.
When a good man comes along she rejects him, not because hes the wrong one but because she has rejection in her. Rejected people reject people, hurt people hurt people. They don’t see what’s good because whats wrong for their past is still at work in their mind and soul.
There are many keys that have to be used in order to open the love door again. I don’t believe its just one key solves all the problem. I do believe however that the key factor is Love, and this is why I say love. Because its the very thing that you will want to shut but I want to tell you its the very door that God wants to open again.
Look at Jesus. He loved a woman, you and I! He came from a far country to wed us, we rejected him, That rejection worked in him too. Yes, he was called a “man of sorrows,” Maybe you know what that means. Men too get sorrowful, men too cry and languish privately with their pain over a lost lover. He done all he could yet was refused, scorned and mocked. Have you been there! You’ve given all you've got and you were mocked for it!
Man of sorrows!
When those around him thought the love was dead forever, the love of this man began to work all over again!
Sister, brother, don’t let the devil tell you, that you will never love again. That’s a lie! They thought Jesus (the God who is love) was dead too, but on the morning of the third day. Yes the third day, love began to live again. For the believer, love don’t die because God cannot die, and whatever love was buried, that same love will live again.
Even if that person does not love you and will not love you, take comfort your love will not die, your ability to love will not die. Your ability to love yourself and then love others will live again. Older man, older woman just because you’re in your forties, fifties or sixties don’t mean its over, that’s a lie! Love is greater than age, love is greater than hurt. Love conquers death “and the greatest of these is love,” yes, the “greatest” of resurrection's is the resurrection of love.
Even the death of a relationship contains a seed of resurrection, you have that miracle resurrection love seed in you. You will love again! Maybe you have to first let go of love to get it all back. Maybe too you have to put bury the past hurt first. Maybe you have to lay done the anger first. Maybe you have to give your past a funeral service.
You cant afford to live without love. Why rob yourself of love why rob yourself of something God created you for. That don't make sense. There’s no hurt that so bad that you will have to rob yourself of its force.
Here are three things you can do again
1. MAKE THE CHOICE TO BURY THE PAST and resurrect the future. If you have a man that believes it can come back together then believe against the odds with him. Don’t quit on love love wont quit on you, give it a second chance, give it a third day. have another go.
2. TAKE OWNERSHIP OF FAILURE. Without taking responsibility to forgive one cannot take authority over pain. If you forgive from the heart God will restore. Take ownership of mistakes, admit it you had a role to play in things going wrong. Confess it then walk away from its guilt.
3. CHOOSE TO MAKE TODAY BIGGER THAN YOU PAST. If you want something to die give it no time no talk and no attention and it will die. Tomorrow is new. Don’t mention yesterday anymore, don’t bring it up with your mate don’t ponder it and don’t let yesterday live. Today is a new day. live today. Today is not yesterday repeated. Don’t live like that. It will kill the life in you. Today in New. Make it a celebration of whats new not a rehearsal of whats dead.
Love can live again.
You will love again